How to be a Listener?

Why you should be a listener?

The world is filled with chaotic noise. Most of the modern problems of Homo Sapiens are due to the fact, they are confused with this messy overflow of information. However, most minds, unless diseased is capable of figuring out the path, navigating through the chaos, when a clam and natural space is provided. I am sure throughout the working day, at least you once feel, overwhelmed and need of someone to talk about it. So, is everyone else. We all love to talk, about ourselves, as it is refreshing and calming. Even if we are not provided with solutions. Imagine 8 billion people speak at once, there would be nobody to listen. Which is happening nowadays, and a root cause for our ever-growing selfishness. So, indeed there is a great vacuum for listeners in current world.

Also being a listener will make, you feel that you are indeed, needed by someone else.

Listen. Listen more. Listen further more before speaking

Listening is not therapy

Fundamental difference between therapy and listening is, the latter do not try to provide a diagnosis label, and there is no structured approach. Yet, it is a very powerful way, to help someone who is in need of a companion. In listening, the listener do not try to give a solution. Instead, be non-judgmental, and empathic. Something we all crave for. We all crave for a validation of our feelings, by another human being. We might expect it from our partner, a family member, or even a stranger. And If you become a listener, It will be a great assets to the people who live closest to you. Lot of, unspoken words and feelings which will be unearthed, would provide a fertile soil for more natural solutions. However, there are dangers.

Dangers of being a listener.

Dangers of listener are twofold. Unless you are an empty bucket with no feelings, you would feel heavy after the listening. Naturally some people are better at being listeners than others. Second consequence being you might be a target, by people with hidden agendas. Unfortunately, these problems cannot be avoided. As, it is utmost important to keep your mental space clean and safe during hearings. If it disturbs your day, to listen to someone else, we can always revert back to our baseline level by listening nothingness of the nature. You might take a walk and listen to natural song of earth, in the local park, which might provide some healing to your soul.

Where and how you can become a listener.

At home, where your partner may need one. Just try it for a once without reacting.

At work, I am sure there are hundreds of co-workers who has to say something.

At school, in the park, in Hospital ED or online platform.

While you're alone, you can listen to your own voice in head and we call this special case of mindfulness.

Remember to be a sponge while you're doing it. So you do absorb everything and give out nothing. If you try to squeeze out your openions, it will prevent the flow of the sound.