Tighter is not better, ask from Gears, and loosen your grip

Ask from gears.

Engineers have used gears massively since the mechanical revolution. Although they have been there for centuries. Today, you will find gears, in every machine with significant motion, as a rule. If you have dissembled a toy car as a kid, you would have noticed, some gears. Maybe it was your grandfathers watch you undid, just to see how many interesting gears they possess. One fact about fitting gears, is that they are never meant to be 100% snug fit. The reason is simple. When the gear wheels move against each other, the friction which helps to bring out the forward motion, makes them rub against each other and causes thermal expansion of the wheels. If the Gears were snug fit, they will lock with one another, until they are cooled down again. Sometimes they might even snap, if the torque is stronger than the gears itself. And that would be a serious fault if you consider, amount of machinery which depends on gears. Solution is simple, and open, leave a gap, for thermal expansion. Tighter is not always better.

Gears

Ask from a cyclist.

Similar principle governed when I first learned to use a bicycle. It was in the latter part of the childhood, when I first had a chance to try one. And this was an adult height cycle that we had, and I couldn't balance myself without help of someone. So, to avoid a risk of a fall, what did I do? I just hold onto the handle. When it tried to move to left, I would try to keep it straight. When it tried to move to right, I would try to keep it straight. But if you do not know the bicycle have a cleaver design to keep its center of gravity aligned with its path. And correct way of doing that is trusting its instincts and let it correct its own path. A gentle grip with a slight pointing in direction, would do. And it is lot easier, if your legs start to move than your brain, or arms, when it comes to cycling. So, a bicycle will tell you tighter is not always better.

Ask from anyone

This phenomenon is repetitive. I can give you many more examples from the tip of my tongue. An artist would tell you not to grip the Paint brush tighter. A violinist would tell you not to push the bow hard against the strings. Not too much, just light glide would do. You can call it agility, or artistic way of gripping things.

Ask from yourself, loosen your grip.

We can reverse engineer this gear principle for our lives. Maybe in your life, something feels tight. Something feels hot. And something feels stuck, like two gears hugging each other without any movement. And this can come out as stress and anger when you genius life machine is supposed to roll and produce productive output in every passing minute. And now you know, it is not supposed to work that way. Maybe you are putting too much effort. For your clogged up mind machine to function again, you need to loosen your grip to whatever it is grabbing. Little bit of lubrication with naturally peaceful grease would do. If the loosening the gear wheels not possible maybe you should entirely replace them. Before them break and jam everything. I know this is just an analogy. Sometimes there are no easy fixes to life like replacing a set of gears. However, it doesn't have to be tedious. You need to have an artistic talent when you grasp things. Not too tight, not too light, when you grip anything in life. It may be children, a partner, a passion to create, a job an apartment or a pet or a dream. Whatever it is, a gear principle would come in handy when things start to tighten up one day.

Artistic gripping

Why Timing matters.

One fact of note is that the loosening of grip principle should apply from the day 1 of your grip cycle. So, timing matters, and timing is always. Even when you see the things are rolling smoothly with the tight grip of yours.